“Tell it not in Gath.”

I came across this old chestnut recently.

Bonus points to you if you know what it’s referring to in the Bible.

Extra SUPER bonus points to you if you know how it’s used against abuse survivors.

And of course, if it was actually used against YOU, then you win Queen for a Day. (Or King, depending.)

In 2014 when I was new in speaking out against abuse on what was in those days the relatively unspoiled land of Facebook, my face often contorted at what I saw other people posting in response to my declarations that, in the circles of Bob Jones University Fundamentalism, Abuse and Abuse Enabling Had Happened And Needed To Be Dealt With.

What were their face-contorting responses, you ask?

This was one. “Tell it not in Gath.”

When I saw it, yes, I knew what this relatively obscure Scripture was referring to. That’s why my face contorted.

It’s from 2 Samuel 1:20. Gath was in the land of the Philistines, the sworn enemies of Israel. King Saul had died, and David was poetically longing for no one to make a report in that land about the king’s demise, so those enemies wouldn’t gloat and mock.

Like this . . .

Okay so far.

But that application . . .

Obviously, when someone is posting this in response to my posts about Abuse and Abuse Enabling, they’re not talking about David and Saul.

My face contorted because I was thinking, “What in the world? That has nothing to do with this.”

But here’s how their thinking goes. You’re probably a couple of steps ahead of me on this one.

Just as David didn’t want the Philistines to find out that King Saul had died, in the same way we shouldn’t want those outside the church to find out when evils are committed within the Christian world.

So the logical conclusion is that we shouldn’t be posting about these things publicly, see?

It sounds almost quaint now. But at the time, it sounded ludicrous.

I was thinking, “Those outside the church already know that evils are being committed in the Christian world. It’s Christians who are so ignorant about it! And with that attitude, they’ll remain ignorant!”

“Israelites gloating to their enemies about the death of a bad king” IS NOT EQUAL TO “Christians publicly calling out wickedness in Christian circles.”

Are you sure, Rebecca? Are you sure they’re not equal?

I believe we can go someplace other than 2 Samuel to get our answer to that.

Let’s look at Ezekiel, calling out the religious leaders very publicly for their wickedness.

Let’s look at John the Baptist, also calling out the religious leaders very publicly.

Let’s look at Jesus Christ himself also calling out the religious leaders, also very publicly, also for their wickedness.

And what about Paul, who said, “Have no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them.”

“Do you not see,” I wanted to implore those commenters, “that if Christians refuse to acknowledge these shameful activities that their leaders have participated in, then those so-called enemies you allude to will think that all of us excuse the shameful activity?”

You think that if we just don’t talk about it, they won’t know. But many of them are the very ones who used to be in the church and were harmed in the church or parachurch organizations by those who claimed to be the people of God, and that’s why they’re no longer in the church.

They have spoken “in the world” –that is, to non-Christians—about their treatment at the hands of Christians.

Then do you believe that those people should receive only silence from us because we’re afraid that they’ll gloat at the fall of a leader?

Maybe you can see why I felt like my head was going to explode.

One solution here is to step back from seeing ourselves as “the people of God” and everyone else as “the Philistines.”

That’s not the way it is in the New Covenant.

Every single person you lay eyes on has the potential to be brought from the kingdom of darkness into the Kingdom of God’s dear Son.

You know these people.

They don’t live in Gath.

They check you out at the grocery store. They repair your smart phone. They paint your house. They do your taxes. They teach your children.

For the love of God, acknowledge the wrongs that are being done within the church. Acknowledge the rank hypocrisy and wickedness.

Your God is big enough for that.

In that context then, like Jesus, we can offer words of love and truth, we can offer the light of Christ and the water of life.

This is how wounded hearts will be bound up and souls will be brought back to the Savior.

Way back then, “Tell it not in Gath” was one of the twisted Scriptures that the Lord used to propel me into the work I’m doing now.

So it deserved to have its own blog post. It was about time.

 

 

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