This post is also being published today at A Cry for Justice.
Hello friends! My newest book has been released on Amazon! I’m glad it’s being released in Domestic Violence Awareness month, since in Christian circles, domestic abuse is almost always interwoven with spiritual abuse. Click here to see the book on Amazon.
I wish I could sit and enjoy a cup of coffee or tea with each of you individually while we talk over some of the Scriptures that have been twisted to keep you or someone you care about in a place of manipulation and control, and think together about the genuine hope we have in Jesus Christ.
I would remind you first that one of the tremendous advantages we have as New Covenant believers is that we get to see clearly what the true God looks like—He looks like Jesus. This is from my “final words” in Untwisting Scriptures that were used to tie you up, gag you, and tangle your mind:
One thing I always seek to remember in reading and interpreting the Scriptures is that Almighty God is perfectly represented in Jesus Christ. Hebrews 1:3 tells us He is “the radiance of the glory of God and the exact imprint of his nature.” That “exact imprint of his nature” can be roughly translated “the engraving on his under-establishment.”
I think of it as Jesus being the features on the face of God.
I worked on Untwisting Scriptures passionately. As can sometimes happen, when you get very close to a project, especially a project like this one, what seems to be clear to you might not be clear to others, so it was vitally important for me to get input from my pre-readers, all of whom were either abuse survivors or people who had been closely involved in helping abuse victims or survivors. They gave me tremendously helpful feedback, some of which looked more or less like, “Back to the old drawing board with you! This isn’t untwisted enough yet!” So I hustled back to work on more untwisting.
Another recommendation several of them made was regarding all those wrong teachings all through the book (there are a lot of them, from teachers such as Bill Gothard, Nancy Leigh DeMoss, and Adrian Rogers)—that the wrong teachings needed to be somehow visually more distinguished from my own thoughts. So now all those quotations aren’t just indented, they’re also in gray boxes (at least they are in the print version; looks like the Kindle version may have dropped them). Besides making the wrong teachings easy to distinguish, that also makes them easy to skip. That way, if you find the wrong teachings arouse unpleasant emotions and physical reactions, you don’t have to be completely derailed in your reading.
The book is coming out with Justice Keepers Publishing, the publishing arm of A Cry for Justice ministries (ACFJ), which began last year with Unholy Charade. I know that ACFJ does a stellar job addressing false teachings, but if you have other questionable teachings you’d like to ask me about, you’re welcome to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. I’ll be writing more Untwisting blog posts too, at this website.
I hope you find some aspect of this short book helpful. If you’re an abuse victim or survivor, or someone who cares about an abuse victim or survivor, even if I haven’t met you please know that I wrote this book with you in mind. Along with the ACFJ team, I’m eager for more people to walk in the victory and true freedom that has been offered to us through Jesus Christ, the perfect representation of God.
Related post: New book on the way: Untwisting Scriptures.
Go here to download your free Guide, How to Enjoy the Bible Again (when you’re ready) After Spiritual Abuse (without feeling guilty or getting triggered out of your mind). You’ll receive access to both print and audio versions of the Guide (audio read by me). I’m praying it will be helpful.
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Hi, I found this blog via ‘My Only Comfort, the most damaging counselling mistakes’, a web about the cruelty and senselessness of Biblical counselling. I know it is boring to read whining stories of others but if only out of desperate knee jerk attempt to make myself (selfishly) feel better, please, let me contribute with my comment.
I feel like crying being able to find stories of survivors who I feel have been through something similar like myself. I’ve opened up to a so called pastor in a way I have never done to anyone before because I believed he was a kind and loving man i.e, a man of God.
We had several mutually friendly conversations during which I have even asked for a direct advice, which he ignored. After a few conversations when my ‘confession’ was complete, he quite literally stabbed my soul with confrontation of my sin, which I would never even have imagined was a sin at all.
It has been a few months now but I still cannot recover from what I can only see as an act of cruelty. I keep asking myself what happened to the love?! I genuinely liked him and thought I have found a true spiritual person who was going to be able to show true love and compassion.
I don’t understand how can someone be so cruel and sadistic after I have only showed respect, submission and honesty. I honestly don’t know if I will ever recover from this kind of betrayal. I used to read the Bible but now every time I want to pick it up I keep thinking about what has happened to me.
Sorry for whining but I sometimes really feel like drowning. I feel so bad about my self. As an egoistic sinner.
Thank you for this wonderful blog, sharing your life story and helping others like me. Love truly is not something that comes for granted. Thank you once again.
Anonymous, I’m so sorry this happened to you. It sounds like it must have been extremely painful. I pray that you’ll be able to find the full healing you need through the grace and peace of our Lord Jesus Christ. Much love to you.