I don’t want to be tone deaf to the problems of covid-19 and the troubled economy. But when I think about addressing either one, I believe the Lord is telling me that others are already doing this, and my job is to continue on in the work I was undertaking before. So here we are, friends. I’m continuing on.

This blog post is one I wrote in 2019. It seems the right time to publish it now.

In the classic movie The Truman Show, Truman’s life is a 24-hour TV series, without his knowledge, for the entire world to see.

The show’s director, on the other hand, lives a very private life.

And as it so happens, a similar scenario occurs in the governments of various countries around the world.

Nazi Germany, communist Russia, and North Korea, for example, would gather intel on ordinary citizens in order to use it against them as needed. Often this would come through neighbors, who were encouraged to report on each other.

Despotic governments thrive on information about their citizens. In this way, they can constantly cut off any form of rebellion against their rule and authority, because they’ll be able to nip it in the bud.

In the United States in recent years, it’s worked a little differently. In the U.S., the most effective systems devised to collect information on citizenry have been voluntary or invisible. For the most part, individuals report on themselves. In order for the citizens to believe that they are free, they have to believe that their information is freely offered, such as via social media posts.

Or they need to be unaware or unconcerned that information is being taken from them. “They’re not really collecting my emails,” people say. “Why would the government want my boring emails? And even if they do, why should I care that they knows what I’m writing? I have nothing to hide.”

No, actually this isn’t a diatribe about any particular government. It’s a lead-in to a discussion about churches.

This also happens in churches. All the time.

Small groups emphasize “transparency” and “accountability,” and church members think “I have nothing to hide. I can get these issues off my back and share them with people who will care.” So they share their most difficult issues with those who have been appointed by people they trust, to be in a position that makes it sound like they care.

In many cases, the church people don’t even know anything about their small group leaders except their name and address, what they post on social media, and the fact that they were chosen to be small group leaders.

“I can share my heart with people I don’t know well, because I can trust them because they’re trusted church people.”

But besides the fact that you really don’t know them, you’ll learn eventually that there is no signed statement of confidentiality from the group leaders. In fact, small group leaders then regularly pass on information to the church leader above them. Then the leader above them will pass on information as needed to the leader above them.

This also applies to staff in churches, who answer to bosses (ministry leaders) who answer to other bosses (elders over those ministries) who answer to one primary boss (the executive pastor).

It works like a pyramid, as most business models do.

And the one or two at the top receive all the information from the trusting underlings, but are required to give out none.

Just like The Truman Show.

The leader at the top can then use the information he gathers as touch points for what he wants to reinforce.

Maybe several women are talking about abuse in their background or present situation, desperate to share these things with someone who cares, and asking for help. So these cries for help can become signals that it’s time for a sermon on forgiveness and the permanence of marriage.

“He sounds like he was preaching to me,” a congregant might think. But maybe it’s because he has information on you.

In the notorious Shepherding Movement, for example, headed by men such as Charles Simpson, this is the way things worked. Mega accountability for the lowest people in the pyramid, while the highest men in the pyramid claimed they were accountable to each other, because that’s what church leaders say because it sounds good, wink wink.

What is the primary objective? Maintaining control.

This, co-incidentally, is the same thing that happens in governments. An unequal flow of information is one of the primary ways to maintain control of the many “lowers” and protect the few “highers.”

Just as any citizens of any country would do well to understand how their government collects and uses information on them, members of churches would also do well to understand how this system works. In both cases, our freedom and our safety may both depend on it.

The answer? Get to know people before you trust them. Be willing to do research. Understand how your church system works—how it really works, not just how it claims to work on paper.

Ask the Holy Spirit to open your eyes to the truth.

Sadly, we can’t simply assume all is well with the Christian church in general, because so many churches, like other power structures such as governments, are filled with wolves who delight in devouring sheep.

But there are those, here and there, who still faithfully follow the Good Shepherd and are empowered by His Spirit. Watch for them, and keep asking Him to bring them your way.

Like Truman, you can break free and find those who care.


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