Content Warning. Obviously.
A friend sent me the infamous sermon clip this morning. Here is a link from Sarah McDugal so you can see it yourself:
I was incensed. But I was trying to finish a deadline for a book I’m ghostwriting, and then I had to get ready for a score of people coming for Thanksgiving.
But then a reporter from Julie Roys contacted me to get a quote about it.
“I’m not really your person,” I said. “I talk about domestic abuse a little, but mostly I focus on untwisting Scriptures.”
She said, “That’s what this is about.”
She read me the snippet of a Bible verse that he quoted. “You are not your own.” That meant, he said, that you belong to your husband and he should be able to rape you.
He actually TOLD husbands to rape their wives.
Here’s where I’m going to get graphic. You have been warned.
This is not about wives acting cute and coy and giving a “no” that is really a “yes,” which is toxic teaching all on its own.
This is about rape, which is not gentle. It is beastly. It is sometimes even done with other equipment, like kitchen tools and curling irons.
I have a husband who has always been supremely gentle with me, so I do not speak from personal experience. I speak from the stories of scores of women whose voices need to be heard.
“You are not your own,” this preacher said.
This is a prime example of Scripture twisting.
“You are not your own” does NOT mean you belong to your husband for him to do with whatsoever he will, to use and bruise and toss aside, wiping his mouth and saying, “I have done no wrong.”
“You are not your own” is a snippet from 1 Corinthians 6:17-20.
But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.
This is about your body belonging to God, not your husband. Do not do sexually immoral things with your body, because it belongs to God.
Your body belongs to God, and you and your husband can “belong” to each other in the sense that you can mutually care for each other.
You will abstain from immorality because you belong to the Lord.
But how many will actually look at the Scripture, to understand it? From my experience, not many.
If we understand the Scripture, we will be better equipped to refute false teachers such as this one.
Because teachings such as this are devastating the body of Christ.
UPDATE: This man has resigned in ignominy and given an “unqualified apology.” A statement from his denomination is here: https://www.nadadventist.org/news/north-american-division-responds-statement-new-york-conference-regarding-harmful-comments-made
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